Episode 242: A Year And A Day: Divorce Without Destruction with author by Jaime Davis, JD

How are you? I'm not going to lie: I am still reveling in Tuesday night’s debate and Taylor Swift’s Kamala endorsement. Over 300,000 people have already visited Vote.org—that’s a lot of people. The tides are turning.

Fun fact: whenever I see the word divorce, I read getting unmarried. Divorce has so much baggage. Getting unmarried is the less shamey and blamey splitting up.

My parents initially split up when I was eight and briefly reconciled, and ultimately divorced when I was ten. It was the very early 80s, and divorce was at its peak in the United States. No fault divorce and the ability to have a job, a checking account, and a credit card in your own name allowed a lot of women to get unmarried. At the time, it felt like more of my classmates were splitting time between mom and dad’s house than not. It feels quintessentially GenX.

To this day, when people talk about their parents, I ask if they are still married. Like many kids from that time, I got both a stepmom and a stepdad. My parents' second marriages were much longer than the one they had together. So they are married, just not to each other!

Watching the Emhoff family, including Doug’s first wife, come together to support Kamala for President reminds me of how my family tried to stay unified as a family unit through it all. Supporting the success or the new wife takes effort and emotional maturity that not everyone has or is willing to put in. But the Emhoff family makes it seem possible.

As a Fair Play Facilitator, I see a lot of conflict in marriages. In the end, some marriages can work through issues, and some don’t. But is there a better way to divorce/get unmarried?

This week’s guest is Jaime Davis. She is a Board-Certified Specialist in Family Law, a Certified Family Financial Mediator, and a Certified Parenting Coordinator.

Her practice incorporates all areas of family law, including complex equitable distribution and child custody cases, child support, post-separation support, alimony, alienation of affection, and criminal conversation. She also handles family law contracts such as Premarital, Postnuptial, and Separation and Property Settlement Agreements.

Jaime is also an author and podcast host who aims to help people through divorce and preserve family relationships and finances.