Time is finite. We only get 168 hours each week. That’s why it is important to understand where you are spending your life hours. Once time is gone, it is gone.
Either you make your priorities fit into your schedule or you don’t.
But what about energy?
Energy can be renewable, flexible, infinite (up to a point).
We need to know where our energy comes from and learn how to manage it.
So many people say they don’t have enough time for self-care or living with intention. I would argue that what they are really feeling is a lack of energy and a lack of priorities.
Do you know where you get your energy?
Are you someone who is revved up after a party where you talked to a lot of people? Or would you rather have one deep conversation at the party?
Are you quick on your feet or do you need some time to gather your thoughts before you feel ready to answer?
After spending a day alone do you feel drained or energized?
If you answered yes to the first parts of these questions – you might be an extrovert. Contrary to popular belief, extroversion has nothing to do with being outgoing. It simply means you get your energy from spending time with other people.
If you answered yes to the second parts of the questions – you might be an introvert. Contrary to popular belief, introversion has nothing to do with being shy. It simply means you get your energy from spending time alone.
I bring this up because so many people – including me – have confused me as being an extrovert because of my outgoing nature.
If you are somewhere in the middle, you might be an ambivert – a bit of both.
Why does it matter?
If matters because unlike time which is finite, you can make more energy depending on what activities you engage in throughout your days.
For example, I was utterly exhausted at the end of every single day I spent as a classroom teacher. I was surrounded by 20-35 students all day long and constantly having to move from activity to activity if I was ready or not. Most of the time I felt like a broken electrical line in a windstorm being repeatedly smacked on the ground. I was a frazzled and exhausted.
Now that I work from home, alone most of the day and when I am in contact with others, diving deep into meaningful conversations I feel energized at the end of my day. I have the energy to do the stuff in my life that needs to be done because I have managed my energy throughout the day.
Before I learned about my temperament, on weekends where I had a lot of plans – parties, lots of socializing with acquaintances, etc. I would feel like I needed a vacation from my weekend.
Now that I know I thrive after time spent alone, I make sure to prioritize that into my self-care plan.
Self-knowledge gives us the tools to make self-care decisions based on who you are and what makes you tick.