Do You Have Questions?

Do You Have Questions?

What is Deferred Maintenance?

It is a 6 week online Self-Care 101 course.  We will learn about the four quadrants of self-care, practice my most life-changing self-care mindset and write new self-care plans while having support and accountability of a group so we can actually make these plans happen.

 

Why is this class called Deferred Maintenance?

So many people put off self-care that it reminded me of how so many people put off taking care of their house. Over time the house starts to show signs that it isn’t being well cared for and so do we.  This class is a kick start into getting your personal maintenance back on track.

 

When does enrollment end for Deferred Maintenance? 

Class starts June 20th. Enrollment ends June 19th.

 

You’ll want to sign up before Memorial Day, May 28th in order to get your 30 minute BONUS one-on-one session with me with your early pricing of $347.

 

After June 2nd price goes up to $399.

 

Do I get personalized support + access to you?

Yes! I will be asking for feedback every week via email and in our secret Facebook group. You are encouraged to ask questions and to get help where you need it.

 

What does the class cost?

Before Memorial Day – May 28th – class is just $347 (plus you get a BONUS 30 minute private one-on-one phone session with me)

After June 2nd, the price goes up to $399.

 

I’m not a parent – is this class still for me?

Yes! This class idea came to me while I was teaching a self-care class to preschool parents, but ANYONE who has a habit of putting off what they know they need to do in terms of self-care are welcome.

 

What if I enroll and it’s not a fit? 

You have until June 27th to request a refund. All you have to do is show that you’ve completed all the work for week one.

 

What if I have to miss a class or I live in a different time zone? Not to worry! All sessions are being recorded and all your questions will be addressed. You will get to ask questions before the call via email or in our secret Facebook group.

 

What if I am an introvert?

Me too! All classes are recorded online, so no one has to leave their house.

 

What if this sounds good except for the part about other people?

If you’d like to work with me one-on-one, that can be arranged. I offer Self Care SOS Sessions and Life Satisfaction Sessions for my one-on-one clients. Click here for details and to set up an Are We A Good Fit Call.

 

A class for those of us who are always putting self-care off.

In this 6 week class we will focus on self-care 101. Each week we will focus on a different area of self-care, make a plan and hold each other accountable.

This class is perfect for:

  • Parents who have put self-care on the back burner because of kids.
  • Women who work for themselves (and never seem to stop)
  • People who put everyone else’s needs in front of their own.This class will be on-line so you can be anywhere in the world.

 

 

The sessions will be recorded and sent after each class.

 

 

$347 until 6/1/18

Sign up before Memorial Day at you get a 30 minute BONUS one-on-one session with me

$399 after 6/2

SIGN UP NOW!

 

 

3 Biggest Myths About Self-Care and Why Putting It Off Can Shorten Your Life

3 Biggest Myths About Self-Care and Why Putting It Off Can Shorten Your Life

Now is the time to invest in yourself and self-care.

 

 

Why? Because we don’t know how much time we have left before a major life event happens. Divorce, death of a loved one, losing a job, a significant health setback or diagnosis, or an accident can happen at any time.

 

 

Are you mentally, physically and emotionally ready to handle things that come your way?

 

 

 

Self-care is what got me through the toughest years of my life while growing my business and raising a toddler. I was able to grow stronger through the grief and sadness because I practiced 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care.

 

 

For many, self-care becomes deferred maintenance. We put off what needs to be done for a variety of reasons. The result is the same:

 

We cause damage to our lives in the long run by not taking care of ourselves now.

3 Biggest Myths About Self-Care

and Why Putting It Off Can Shorten Your Life

 

Myth #1: Self-care is frivolous, expensive and optional.

 

Self-care is the intentional actions we take in order to thrive in our lives. Taking care of our body, mind, and spirit now can improve the quality of your life now and in the future.

 

Self-care isn’t just manicures, massages and mama’s weekend getaways.

 

Self-care is, but not limited to:

  • Sleeping + rest.
  • Moving your body.
  • Quieting your mind.
  • Maintaining your physical environment.
  • Maintaining your relationships with others.
  • Establishing a loving + supportive relationship with yourself.
  • Being a lifelong learner.
  • Being part of something bigger than yourself.
  • Connecting with others.
  • Doing what you need to do in order to thrive, not just survive.

 

Mindset is free and quite honestly has been the biggest part of my own self-care practice.

 

Myth #2: Sleep isn’t that important. I can get by on less. Or I’ll sleep when I’m dead.

 

Research shows that lack of sleep can lead to loss of productivity, lack of mental clarity, accidents at work + on the road and some studies suggest a shortened lifespan. So if you aren’t sleeping 7-9 hours on the regular you might be headed down a dangerous road.

 

Myth #2: I don’t have time to exercise/ I hate exercise. 

Research shows exercise can be done anywhere and takes less time than you think. With a new mindset exercise can become effortless.

 

Plus exercise helps you sleep, protects from long term degenerative disease and also helps you live longer.

 

Myth #3: I know what to do, I’ll just make it happen on my own.

 

The fact is most people need support and accountability to accomplish their goals. Few people can do it on their own. If that’s you – hooray! If you are like most people, you know what to do, but you just can’t get yourself to do what needs to be done.

 

I can help with that. I am creating a community of people just like you who want to feel better because they are taking self-care seriously. Together we’ll write a plan, dig into your personal obstacles, call you out when we need to and cheer you on as you accomplish your goals.

 

What are you waiting for? Enrollment for Deferred Maintenance is open now.

 

 

A class for those of us who are always putting self-care off.

In this 6 week class we will focus on self-care 101. Each week we will focus on a different area of self-care, make a plan and hold each other accountable.

This class is perfect for:

  • Parents who have put self-care on the back burner because of kids.
  • Women who work for themselves (and never seem to stop)
  • People who put everyone else’s needs in front of their own.This class will be on-line so you can be anywhere in the world.

 

 

The sessions will be recorded and sent after each class.

 

 

$347 until 6/1/18

Sign up before Memorial Day at you get a 30 minute BONUS one-on-one session with me

$399 after 6/2

SIGN UP NOW!

 

 

Deferred Maintenance: For Those Of Us Who Always Put Self-Care Last

Deferred Maintenance: For Those Of Us Who Always Put Self-Care Last

The first time I heard this phrase – deferred maintenance – it was in reference to a dilapidated house for sale which,  despite its jankiness,  was still well out of my price range.

 

The seasoned real estate agent said, “Once we are under contract we’ll get the inspector out to see what the real damage is and get an idea how much it will cost to get this house livable again.”

 

I was NOT impressed.

 

Who decides to just let their house go like that?

Why didn’t they just call a roofer and get it taken care of?

Couldn’t they see the weeds sprouting out of the gutters and the cracks in the pavement?

What were these people doing instead of taking care of their house?

 

Fast forward almost 20 years – and a home purchase + a kid of my own – and now I get it.

 

 

The people deferring maintenance on their house were busy: having babies, raising kids, getting laid off, starting new careers, burying their parents – the complicated stuff of life that gets in the way of taking care of what’s right in front of our eyes.

 

Every once in a while there is a time when things are clear and we’re able to look around to assess the damage caused by neglect and to start to build plans to get that house, that life, back into shape once again.

 

 

Hopefully this happens before you have to sell the house because you’ve lost the spouse to death or divorce, but rather in a lull in between major life events.

 

 

 

Look up when times are boring, uneventful, and take stock of what’s happened since the last major life event and see what you can do before the next.

 

 

 

Our lives (and selves), like our houses, also need to be tended to between happenings.

 

 

When was the last time you took stock of your self-care?

Have you been deferring maintenance on YOU?

 

 

NEW CLASS ALERT!

A class for those of us who are always putting self-care off.

In this 6 week class we will focus on self-care 101. Each week we will focus on a different area of self-care, make a plan and hold each other accountable.

This class is perfect for:

  • Parents who have put self-care on the back burner because of kids.
  • Women who work for themselves (and never seem to stop)
  • People who put everyone else’s needs in front of their own.This class will be on-line so you can be anywhere in the world.

 

 

The sessions will be recorded and sent after each class.

 

 

$347 until 6/1/18

Sign up before Memorial Day at you get a 30 minute BONUS one-on-one session with me

$399 after 6/2

SIGN UP NOW!

 

 

Self-Care Myth Busters

Self-Care Myth Busters

 

In December I completed my 100th interview in my 100 Women Project – my commitment to interview 100 women about self-care.

In order to share what I learned, I am starting what I am calling my Self-Care Myth Busting Series.

Self-Care Myth #1:
Self-Care is Selfish

I heard from A LOT women, all over the country, that self-care is selfish. I was astonished. I had no idea so many women were suffering in this way.

Are you one of them?

The women I talked to didn’t lead with self-care is selfish though. They lead with telling me all the ways they know how they should take care of themselves, they gladly told me of their limited successes and then confessed all the ways they are failing themselves.

When I ask the question – what is the hardest part of self-care? – that’s when the truth comes out.

Self-care is selfish.

Over and over again. I keep hearing that and it makes me sad and if I’m being honest – it pisses me off (not at the women I was talking to! But at this cultural message). More on that in a minute though.

The definition of selfish is “lacking concern for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.”

Here’s the thing, I have yet to meet a woman lacking in concern for others. But I do keep meeting lots of women who completely disregard themselves.

Since when don’t women matter?

With this pervasive belief self-care is selfish – no wonder why there are so few women who want to dive head first into self-care.

I’m here to offer an alternative way of thinking.

First let’s start with the definition of self-care.

This is the definition of self-care I use:

self-care-definition

Self care includes any intentional actions you take to care for your physical, mental and emotional health. {Here’s the source of that definition which includes lots of great ideas for self-care}.

The only part I think is missing is the spiritual part of yourself. So when I think of how I am going to take care of myself I include all four of those areas. The details are different for each of us and it’s important that all parts of ourselves are nourished regularly to be truly healthy, happy and sane.

What this definition of self-care doesn’t mention is shirking responsibility for others or disregarding the people you love. It is simply the act or acts that you do to take care of your whole being.

Here’s why I am mad.

So many smart, awesome women are believing something I simply do not find to be true.

Self-care is NOT selfish.

Self-care is taking care of oneself as if you matter. Period. End of story.

I’ll use my own life as an example. In taking care of myself – mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually –  I am not ignoring my family or their needs.

I am simply taking care of my business so no one else has to.  I am responsible for taking care of me.

At the same time, I am teaching my daughter to take care of herself so she isn’t looking for someone else to take care of her and I’m teaching my partner how to take care of himself so I don’t have to.

Which isn’t to say we’re all islands who no longer need one another. That couldn’t be further from the truth. We are interdependent – we rely on each other to help each one of us take care of ourselves.

Everyone in my family matters equally and we all get to get our needs met. While we don’t all need exactly the same things, no one has to sacrifice themselves for the benefit of others.

You don’t have to forget yourself in order to be a great partner, mother, daughter, aunt or friend.

I would love to hear what you think.

I look forward to seeing you soon!