Do You Have Questions?

Do You Have Questions?

What is Deferred Maintenance?

It is a 6 week online Self-Care 101 course.  We will learn about the four quadrants of self-care, practice my most life-changing self-care mindset and write new self-care plans while having support and accountability of a group so we can actually make these plans happen.

 

Why is this class called Deferred Maintenance?

So many people put off self-care that it reminded me of how so many people put off taking care of their house. Over time the house starts to show signs that it isn’t being well cared for and so do we.  This class is a kick start into getting your personal maintenance back on track.

 

When does enrollment end for Deferred Maintenance? 

Class starts June 20th. Enrollment ends June 19th.

 

You’ll want to sign up before Memorial Day, May 28th in order to get your 30 minute BONUS one-on-one session with me with your early pricing of $347.

 

After June 2nd price goes up to $399.

 

Do I get personalized support + access to you?

Yes! I will be asking for feedback every week via email and in our secret Facebook group. You are encouraged to ask questions and to get help where you need it.

 

What does the class cost?

Before Memorial Day – May 28th – class is just $347 (plus you get a BONUS 30 minute private one-on-one phone session with me)

After June 2nd, the price goes up to $399.

 

I’m not a parent – is this class still for me?

Yes! This class idea came to me while I was teaching a self-care class to preschool parents, but ANYONE who has a habit of putting off what they know they need to do in terms of self-care are welcome.

 

What if I enroll and it’s not a fit? 

You have until June 27th to request a refund. All you have to do is show that you’ve completed all the work for week one.

 

What if I have to miss a class or I live in a different time zone? Not to worry! All sessions are being recorded and all your questions will be addressed. You will get to ask questions before the call via email or in our secret Facebook group.

 

What if I am an introvert?

Me too! All classes are recorded online, so no one has to leave their house.

 

What if this sounds good except for the part about other people?

If you’d like to work with me one-on-one, that can be arranged. I offer Self Care SOS Sessions and Life Satisfaction Sessions for my one-on-one clients. Click here for details and to set up an Are We A Good Fit Call.

 

A class for those of us who are always putting self-care off.

In this 6 week class we will focus on self-care 101. Each week we will focus on a different area of self-care, make a plan and hold each other accountable.

This class is perfect for:

  • Parents who have put self-care on the back burner because of kids.
  • Women who work for themselves (and never seem to stop)
  • People who put everyone else’s needs in front of their own.This class will be on-line so you can be anywhere in the world.

 

 

The sessions will be recorded and sent after each class.

 

 

$347 until 6/1/18

Sign up before Memorial Day at you get a 30 minute BONUS one-on-one session with me

$399 after 6/2

SIGN UP NOW!

 

 

3 Biggest Myths About Self-Care and Why Putting It Off Can Shorten Your Life

3 Biggest Myths About Self-Care and Why Putting It Off Can Shorten Your Life

Now is the time to invest in yourself and self-care.

 

 

Why? Because we don’t know how much time we have left before a major life event happens. Divorce, death of a loved one, losing a job, a significant health setback or diagnosis, or an accident can happen at any time.

 

 

Are you mentally, physically and emotionally ready to handle things that come your way?

 

 

 

Self-care is what got me through the toughest years of my life while growing my business and raising a toddler. I was able to grow stronger through the grief and sadness because I practiced 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care.

 

 

For many, self-care becomes deferred maintenance. We put off what needs to be done for a variety of reasons. The result is the same:

 

We cause damage to our lives in the long run by not taking care of ourselves now.

3 Biggest Myths About Self-Care

and Why Putting It Off Can Shorten Your Life

 

Myth #1: Self-care is frivolous, expensive and optional.

 

Self-care is the intentional actions we take in order to thrive in our lives. Taking care of our body, mind, and spirit now can improve the quality of your life now and in the future.

 

Self-care isn’t just manicures, massages and mama’s weekend getaways.

 

Self-care is, but not limited to:

  • Sleeping + rest.
  • Moving your body.
  • Quieting your mind.
  • Maintaining your physical environment.
  • Maintaining your relationships with others.
  • Establishing a loving + supportive relationship with yourself.
  • Being a lifelong learner.
  • Being part of something bigger than yourself.
  • Connecting with others.
  • Doing what you need to do in order to thrive, not just survive.

 

Mindset is free and quite honestly has been the biggest part of my own self-care practice.

 

Myth #2: Sleep isn’t that important. I can get by on less. Or I’ll sleep when I’m dead.

 

Research shows that lack of sleep can lead to loss of productivity, lack of mental clarity, accidents at work + on the road and some studies suggest a shortened lifespan. So if you aren’t sleeping 7-9 hours on the regular you might be headed down a dangerous road.

 

Myth #2: I don’t have time to exercise/ I hate exercise. 

Research shows exercise can be done anywhere and takes less time than you think. With a new mindset exercise can become effortless.

 

Plus exercise helps you sleep, protects from long term degenerative disease and also helps you live longer.

 

Myth #3: I know what to do, I’ll just make it happen on my own.

 

The fact is most people need support and accountability to accomplish their goals. Few people can do it on their own. If that’s you – hooray! If you are like most people, you know what to do, but you just can’t get yourself to do what needs to be done.

 

I can help with that. I am creating a community of people just like you who want to feel better because they are taking self-care seriously. Together we’ll write a plan, dig into your personal obstacles, call you out when we need to and cheer you on as you accomplish your goals.

 

What are you waiting for? Enrollment for Deferred Maintenance is open now.

 

 

A class for those of us who are always putting self-care off.

In this 6 week class we will focus on self-care 101. Each week we will focus on a different area of self-care, make a plan and hold each other accountable.

This class is perfect for:

  • Parents who have put self-care on the back burner because of kids.
  • Women who work for themselves (and never seem to stop)
  • People who put everyone else’s needs in front of their own.This class will be on-line so you can be anywhere in the world.

 

 

The sessions will be recorded and sent after each class.

 

 

$347 until 6/1/18

Sign up before Memorial Day at you get a 30 minute BONUS one-on-one session with me

$399 after 6/2

SIGN UP NOW!

 

 

Deferred Maintenance: For Those Of Us Who Always Put Self-Care Last

Deferred Maintenance: For Those Of Us Who Always Put Self-Care Last

The first time I heard this phrase – deferred maintenance – it was in reference to a dilapidated house for sale which,  despite its jankiness,  was still well out of my price range.

 

The seasoned real estate agent said, “Once we are under contract we’ll get the inspector out to see what the real damage is and get an idea how much it will cost to get this house livable again.”

 

I was NOT impressed.

 

Who decides to just let their house go like that?

Why didn’t they just call a roofer and get it taken care of?

Couldn’t they see the weeds sprouting out of the gutters and the cracks in the pavement?

What were these people doing instead of taking care of their house?

 

Fast forward almost 20 years – and a home purchase + a kid of my own – and now I get it.

 

 

The people deferring maintenance on their house were busy: having babies, raising kids, getting laid off, starting new careers, burying their parents – the complicated stuff of life that gets in the way of taking care of what’s right in front of our eyes.

 

Every once in a while there is a time when things are clear and we’re able to look around to assess the damage caused by neglect and to start to build plans to get that house, that life, back into shape once again.

 

 

Hopefully this happens before you have to sell the house because you’ve lost the spouse to death or divorce, but rather in a lull in between major life events.

 

 

 

Look up when times are boring, uneventful, and take stock of what’s happened since the last major life event and see what you can do before the next.

 

 

 

Our lives (and selves), like our houses, also need to be tended to between happenings.

 

 

When was the last time you took stock of your self-care?

Have you been deferring maintenance on YOU?

 

 

NEW CLASS ALERT!

A class for those of us who are always putting self-care off.

In this 6 week class we will focus on self-care 101. Each week we will focus on a different area of self-care, make a plan and hold each other accountable.

This class is perfect for:

  • Parents who have put self-care on the back burner because of kids.
  • Women who work for themselves (and never seem to stop)
  • People who put everyone else’s needs in front of their own.This class will be on-line so you can be anywhere in the world.

 

 

The sessions will be recorded and sent after each class.

 

 

$347 until 6/1/18

Sign up before Memorial Day at you get a 30 minute BONUS one-on-one session with me

$399 after 6/2

SIGN UP NOW!

 

 

Two Kinds of Happiness – What Do You Choose?

Two Kinds of Happiness – What Do You Choose?

In the study of Positive Psychology — or the scientific study of what makes life worth living — there are two kinds of happiness.

 

The first kind is hedonic happiness. It is focused on increasing pleasure and decreasing/avoiding pain. It focuses on the current state of emotions.  It is short-lived and there is always a sense of wanting to move on to the next best thing.

 

The second kind of happiness is eudaimonic happiness (pronounced you-de-mon-ic). It is focused on striving for a meaningful existence. It allows for the ups and downs in the emotional state. It acknowledges that over the course of a lifetime there will be times of pleasure, but also discomfort and pain. It allows for adversity and growth as a result of the adversity. It looks at the experiences and actions taken in a lifetime for areas of growth and the day to day emotions are less important. It is happiness over the long game.

 

Moving from a life that is more hedonic happiness focused into a life that is more eudaimonic happiness focused is a game-changer. I know because I’ve experienced it and so do my clients who come to me because they want a more meaningful life.

 

 

Let me explain.

 

 

We live in a very hedonic culture in America. We want short cuts and we want to feel good all the time. We expect people to say they are fine when we ask and we do what we need to do to stop feeling not fine.

 

 

For example:

 

Feeling tired? Drink some coffee! Repeat, repeat, repeat.

 

Feeling sad/anxious/hopeless/overwhelmed? Drink some wine! Repeat, repeat, repeat.

 

Feeling out of sorts because you compared your life  to someone else’s? Buy the thing!

 

That thing you bought didn’t fix how you feel? Buy another thing! Repeat, repeat, repeat.

 

These are some simple examples of how hedonic happiness can show up in our lives. I definitely have been here.  I am still here on occasion because no one is perfect and hedonic happiness isn’t bad in and of itself.

 

 

What if we experimented with the eudaimonic happiness route instead? What could that look like?

 

 

Feeling tired? Acknowledge six hours isn’t enough to feel rested. Decide to get more sleep so you can feel good in the morning. Set an alarm to remind you to go to bed. Repeat until you are rested.

 

 

Feeling sad/anxious/hopeless/overwhelmed? Acknowledge these are all human feelings and that they will pass. Find a kind, compassionate person to help sit with the feelings. This could be a coach, a therapist, another healing professional. Be the kind, compassionate person to yourself who realizes she may need therapeutic intervention and maybe medication.

 

 

Feeling out of sorts because you compared your life to someone else’s? Acknowledge we don’t really know what is going on in other people’s lives especially if we are comparing our messy insides to their Instagram curated outsides. Then remember that we humans are all in this together. We all suffer. We all make mistakes.  We are all doing the best we can.

 

 

Hedonic happiness isn’t wrong. Pleasure feels good. But ultimately for a lot of people it just doesn’t feel like enough. We end up searching for meaning and satisfaction after a life of pursuing pleasure.

 

Where are you on the two types of happiness scale? Do you lean more hedonic or more eudaimonic? 

 

What do you think would help you feel more the way you want to feel in your life?

 

 

 

 

Enneagram: What’s Your Number?

Enneagram: What’s Your Number?

Do you know your Enneagram Type?

 

The Enneagram is a personality typing framework that helps us better understand ourselves. It shows us what makes us tick, what our highest version of ourselves looks like, what our lowest version of ourselves looks like and what drives us crazy. It shows us our blind spots.

 

There are 9 Enneagram types and each has its own fears, desires, motivations and core needs. Each of the types has “good” and “bad” aspects and no one type is better than the other. (Although you might not believe that once you identify your own type.) It’s common to see bits of ourselves in each type, but we all have one core type that doesn’t change over time.

 

 

I just learned mine recently and it has kinda blown my mind. Reading about my type I could see straight away my least attractive coping mechanisms when I am stressed. I shared it with my husband and he exclaimed, “Have these people been following you around?!?”

 

 

Anne Bogel calls the Enneagram chapter of Reading People – “Confront Your Junk”. This seems like a fair assessment.

 

When we confront our junk, we can make better, less reactive choices in our lives. We can start down a path of self-acceptance and we can become the highest version of ourselves. This is really what self-knowledge is all about.

 

The Nine Enneagram Types:

Information is from Reading People: How Seeing the World Through The Lens of Personality Changes Everything + The Enneagram Institute

One: The Reformer (the need to be perfect)

Two: The Helper (the need to be needed)

Three: The Achiever (the need to succeed)

Four: The Individualist (the need to be special)

Five: The Investigator (the need to perceive)

Six: The Loyalist (the need for security)

Seven: The Enthusiast (the need to avoid pain)

Eight: The Challenger (the need to be against)

Nine: The Peacemaker (the need to avoid)

 

 

If you’d like more information about the Enneagram types and why you should care, you can check out the Selfie Podcast. In their 10 part Enneagram Series Kristen and Sarah dive into what it means to be each type and interview people who live in each type.

 

Interested in finding your Enneagram type? There are two ways to do that!

 

Option ONE: I did not take a test because the reading through the descriptions make it abundantly clear my type. You know you’ve gotten to your type when you cringe really hard. Your type is the one which makes you sweaty under your armpits.

 

Option TWO: Or you can check out this post for Enneagram test options.

 

What’s your Enneagram type? What did you learn about yourself?

Why Hire a Coach?

Why Hire a Coach?

My clients hire me because they have a problem they haven’t been able to solve on their own. Sometimes their issue is at work, sometimes at home and sometimes it shows up both places.  Each client had been working on their issue by themselves, sometimes for years, without reaching their goals. My clients hire me as their coach because they want to solve the problem and what they are doing on their own isn’t working.

 

My coaching clients hire me to help move them beyond where they were on their own. Together we come up with a new plan with fresh ideas she has never thought of before. We examine the issue, what they’ve already done on their own and talk through possibilities for different outcomes. We discover what they want and what changes need to be made in their lives in order to reach their goals.

 

 I hired a coach because

I wanted to get better at something

and I needed help to do that.

 

Some of the reasons my clients have hired me are:

  • She wants to get better at work life balance because all she does it work. (Yes, it can exist!)
  • She wants to get to know herself better so she knows she is on the right path.
  • She wants to figure out how to set herself up now for a future happy, healthy retirement.
  • She wants help preparing for her next career move, promotion, change, or side hustle.
  • She wants prioritize herself and self-care so she stops feeling so overwhelmed.
  • She wants to make peace with difficult people in her life at home, in her family or at work.
  • She wants to help give herself the time to dream about a perfect for her future
  • She wants help with the nuts and bolts of self-care: getting more sleep, creating health habits, meditation.
  • She wants to make peace with food and her body, to stop emotional eating and start living her life.
  • She wants to start dating again after divorce.

 

My role as a coach is to help my clients figure out what they want and how to get there. I don’t give advice, instead I ask tons of questions to see patterns in behaviors, beliefs and assumptions and to uncover what is getting in the way of my clients reaching her goals. She comes up with solutions and strategies and we work together to create accountability.

 

Working with a coach is different than working with a therapist. Click here for the differences.

 

The benefits of working with a coach are:

— fresh perspective on personal challenges
– enhanced decision-making skills
– greater interpersonal effectiveness
– greater confidence
– increased productivity
– greater satisfaction in life
– setting and reaching goals

If you’d like to learn more about my experience working with a coach you can read about it here.

 

If working with a coach is something you are interested in, click here to learn more about working with me – either in the Self-Care SOS or Life Satisfaction Sessions.

 

I have 2 new client spots available in May – be sure to book your Are We A Good Fit session now.