Enneagram: What’s Your Number?

Enneagram: What’s Your Number?

Do you know your Enneagram Type?


The Enneagram is a personality typing framework that helps us better understand ourselves. It shows us what makes us tick, what our highest version of ourselves looks like, what our lowest version of ourselves looks like and what drives us crazy. It shows us our blind spots.


There are 9 Enneagram types and each has its own fears, desires, motivations and core needs. Each of the types has “good” and “bad” aspects and no one type is better than the other. (Although you might not believe that once you identify your own type.) It’s common to see bits of ourselves in each type, but we all have one core type that doesn’t change over time.



I just learned mine recently and it has kinda blown my mind. Reading about my type I could see straight away my least attractive coping mechanisms when I am stressed. I shared it with my husband and he exclaimed, “Have these people been following you around?!?”



Anne Bogel calls the Enneagram chapter of Reading People – “Confront Your Junk”. This seems like a fair assessment.


When we confront our junk, we can make better, less reactive choices in our lives. We can start down a path of self-acceptance and we can become the highest version of ourselves. This is really what self-knowledge is all about.


The Nine Enneagram Types:

Information is from Reading People: How Seeing the World Through The Lens of Personality Changes Everything + The Enneagram Institute

One: The Reformer (the need to be perfect)

Two: The Helper (the need to be needed)

Three: The Achiever (the need to succeed)

Four: The Individualist (the need to be special)

Five: The Investigator (the need to perceive)

Six: The Loyalist (the need for security)

Seven: The Enthusiast (the need to avoid pain)

Eight: The Challenger (the need to be against)

Nine: The Peacemaker (the need to avoid)



If you’d like more information about the Enneagram types and why you should care, you can check out the Selfie Podcast. In their 10 part Enneagram Series Kristen and Sarah dive into what it means to be each type and interview people who live in each type.


Interested in finding your Enneagram type? There are two ways to do that!


Option ONE: I did not take a test because the reading through the descriptions make it abundantly clear my type. You know you’ve gotten to your type when you cringe really hard. Your type is the one which makes you sweaty under your armpits.


Option TWO: Or you can check out this post for Enneagram test options.


What’s your Enneagram type? What did you learn about yourself?

Sunday Link Love #10

Sunday Link Love #10

It’s International Women’s Day! I am sharing lots of goodies today and again on Sunday as scheduled.


Each week in 2018 I’ll be sending you articles that have sparked my interest because they are all about Self-Care and Life Satisfaction.



The Mission List – The Mission List is an online community of social media changemakers using its power to change the world. Mission Listers engage and activate their social media communities in order to achieve social good. Women are the engines of social and political change. It doesn’t matter if you have 50 followers or 1 million, you can make the world a better place. Join us!


How Will You #PressForProgress on International Women’s Day? I am going to celebrate women’s achievements by reading my daughter the stories of the women in Little Leaders: Bold Women in Black History, Rad American Women A-Z , She Persisted  and I Dissent: Ruth Bader Ginsburg Makes Her Mark.


30 Places: Where to Eat Sacramento – So many new places to try!


The Feeling of Doing It All – I can definitely relate at different times in my life. What about you?


Where Does Your Time Go? – So simple and so impactful.



 Why Hire a Life Coach? – Are you ready? Let’s talk!



The Vagina Monologues turned 20 on Valentine’s Day. I am definitely a vagina warrior.



I’d love to know what you are reading,  watching and listening to these days. Tell me all about it!


I look forward to seeing you soon!


PS: If you want to be the first to know about upcoming retreats, workshops and opportunities to work together – get on the list.

What’s Your Love Language?

What’s Your Love Language?

Happy Valentine’s Day! We are halfway through Love Month and today I want to talk about love languages and how they relate to self-knowledge.



Have you read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman? Do you know your primary and secondary love languages? Take the quiz to find out.



Disclaimer: I don’t highly recommend this book. I bought it, read it and at the end was wanting to tear out the last 20% of the book. The author is super religious and that rubs me the wrong way. That being said, I LOVE the concepts in the book. So if you’d like to get what you need without having to read the book – check out this episode of the Buy The Book podcast.  Kristin and Jolenta break it down with a lot of humor and hit all the necessary points perfectly.


What is The Five Love Languages and why does it matter?

I will start with why it matters. As I said here, the best way to build habits and routines that work is through self-knowledge. What works for me might not work for you. What we need and how we respond to the world is different based on who we are as people. So the love languages gives us another piece of the self-knowledge puzzle.



Specifically why the love languages matters is because your love language is how you feel love and in turn most likely how you show love to others. This matters because what makes you tick is different from what makes me or your partner or sister or BFF tick.


The five love languages are:


Words of Affirmations (or as I like to call it, GOLD STARS). This is my primary love language. I am driven by genuine, specific compliments. Encouraging words what gets me going in the morning.  It makes my heart sing to hear how great you think I am doing and I love being acknowledged. This is my husband’s secondary love language, so he also digs compliments and gold stars. Compliments make WOA folks feel loved.


Acts of Service (or as I like to call it, Getting Shit Done). This is my husband’s primary love language. That dude is always doing stuff around the house, at work, for others. He shows how much he loves you by doing all the yard work, washing the car and putting all the groceries away.  I get it! This is my secondary language. I am a fan of helping people do unpleasant tasks like cleaning out their closets and reading endless rounds of copy for their website. For a full love experience, just wrap it up with a compliment and genuine appreciation at the end. For the Acts of Service folks to feel love, you have to do stuff for them!


Quality Time (or as I like to call it, Asses in the Seats). If this is your love language you value time with your people. You always want to be doing stuff with them. You could be running errands at Target or IKEA or seeing your favorite band.  You want to spend time at a cabin and sit by them while you read a book. You just want your peeps to be nearby. For QT people,  you have to show up and stick around for them to feel loved.


Physical Touch (or as I like to call it Snuggling and Cuddling) – This is one is super straightforward. You like to hold hands when you walk together places, you like to hug, you want to put your feet in your partner’s lap or have them rub your head. Big bear hugs, massages and touch make PT people feel loved.


Receiving Gifts – (or as I like to call it, The Generous Ones) – These folks are the best gift givers in the world. They always send the most thoughtful gifts. If you are on the receiving end of a Gifts person, know that in order for them to feel loved, they need to get gifts too! The gifts don’t have to be expensive, just well thought out.


Knowing your love language and ultimately all about YOU will help you build a more personalized self-care plan. Knowing the love languages of your friends, partner and kids will help you express love toward them the way they best feel it. When you share your love language with the people in your life, hopefully they will show you love the way you feel it best.


Want to learn more about personalized self-care and how to put it to work in your life?


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