The Enneagram is a personality typing framework that helps us better understand ourselves. It shows us what makes us tick, what our highest version of ourselves looks like, what our lowest version of ourselves looks like and what drives us crazy. It shows us our blind spots.
There are 9 Enneagram types and each has its own fears, desires, motivations and core needs. Each of the types has “good” and “bad” aspects and no one type is better than the other. (Although you might not believe that once you identify your own type.) It’s common to see bits of ourselves in each type, but we all have one core type that doesn’t change over time.
I just learned mine recently and it has kinda blown my mind. Reading about my type I could see straight away my least attractive coping mechanisms when I am stressed. I shared it with my husband and he exclaimed, “Have these people been following you around?!?”
Anne Bogel calls the Enneagram chapter of Reading People – “Confront Your Junk”. This seems like a fair assessment.
When we confront our junk, we can make better, less reactive choices in our lives. We can start down a path of self-acceptance and we can become the highest version of ourselves. This is really what self-knowledge is all about.
If you’d like more information about the Enneagram types and why you should care, you can check out the Selfie Podcast. In their 10 part Enneagram Series Kristen and Sarah dive into what it means to be each type and interview people who live in each type.
Interested in finding your Enneagram type? There are two ways to do that!
Option ONE: I did not take a test because the reading through the descriptions make it abundantly clear my type. You know you’ve gotten to your type when you cringe really hard. Your type is the one which makes you sweaty under your armpits.
Why Self-Care Matters To Your Mission – .Morra Aarons-Mele speaks my language. She recently gave a talk entitled The Hermit Entrepreneur and published a book called Hiding In The Bathroom. She is super successful on her own terms and is a huge advocate of building self-care into your business (or job).
My clients hire me because they have a problem they haven’t been able to solve on their own. Sometimes their issue is at work, sometimes at home and sometimes it shows up both places. Each client had been working on their issue by themselves, sometimes for years, without reaching their goals. My clients hire me as their coach because they want to solve the problem and what they are doing on their own isn’t working.
My coaching clients hire me to help move them beyond where they were on their own. Together we come up with a new plan with fresh ideas she has never thought of before. We examine the issue, what they’ve already done on their own and talk through possibilities for different outcomes. We discover what they want and what changes need to be made in their lives in order to reach their goals.
She wants to get better at work life balance because all she does it work. (Yes, it can exist!)
She wants to get to know herself better so she knows she is on the right path.
She wants to figure out how to set herself up now for a future happy, healthy retirement.
She wants help preparing for her next career move, promotion, change, or side hustle.
She wants prioritize herself and self-care so she stops feeling so overwhelmed.
She wants to make peace with difficult people in her life at home, in her family or at work.
She wants to help give herself the time to dream about a perfect for her future
She wants help with the nuts and bolts of self-care: getting more sleep, creating health habits, meditation.
She wants to make peace with food and her body, to stop emotional eating and start living her life.
She wants to start dating again after divorce.
My role as a coach is to help my clients figure out what they want and how to get there. I don’t give advice, instead I ask tons of questions to see patterns in behaviors, beliefs and assumptions and to uncover what is getting in the way of my clients reaching her goals. She comes up with solutions and strategies and we work together to create accountability.
A Better 2018 – Love this post for so many reasons. First, it is talking about making a better year at the end of March instead of January. Jenna’s already been making changes for months and has seen progress. Second, she isn’t trying to tackle everything at once nor to perfection. Last, I love a good product recommendation.
What NOT To Say to Terminal Cancer Patients – So many of us fail to show up for our family and friends when they need us most because we don’t want to say the wrong thing. Or we say the wrong thing and feel like a jerk. Let’s change that.