Enneagram: What’s Your Number?

Enneagram: What’s Your Number?

Do you know your Enneagram Type?

 

The Enneagram is a personality typing framework that helps us better understand ourselves. It shows us what makes us tick, what our highest version of ourselves looks like, what our lowest version of ourselves looks like and what drives us crazy. It shows us our blind spots.

 

There are 9 Enneagram types and each has its own fears, desires, motivations and core needs. Each of the types has “good” and “bad” aspects and no one type is better than the other. (Although you might not believe that once you identify your own type.) It’s common to see bits of ourselves in each type, but we all have one core type that doesn’t change over time.

 

 

I just learned mine recently and it has kinda blown my mind. Reading about my type I could see straight away my least attractive coping mechanisms when I am stressed. I shared it with my husband and he exclaimed, “Have these people been following you around?!?”

 

 

Anne Bogel calls the Enneagram chapter of Reading People – “Confront Your Junk”. This seems like a fair assessment.

 

When we confront our junk, we can make better, less reactive choices in our lives. We can start down a path of self-acceptance and we can become the highest version of ourselves. This is really what self-knowledge is all about.

 

The Nine Enneagram Types:

Information is from Reading People: How Seeing the World Through The Lens of Personality Changes Everything + The Enneagram Institute

One: The Reformer (the need to be perfect)

Two: The Helper (the need to be needed)

Three: The Achiever (the need to succeed)

Four: The Individualist (the need to be special)

Five: The Investigator (the need to perceive)

Six: The Loyalist (the need for security)

Seven: The Enthusiast (the need to avoid pain)

Eight: The Challenger (the need to be against)

Nine: The Peacemaker (the need to avoid)

 

 

If you’d like more information about the Enneagram types and why you should care, you can check out the Selfie Podcast. In their 10 part Enneagram Series Kristen and Sarah dive into what it means to be each type and interview people who live in each type.

 

Interested in finding your Enneagram type? There are two ways to do that!

 

Option ONE: I did not take a test because the reading through the descriptions make it abundantly clear my type. You know you’ve gotten to your type when you cringe really hard. Your type is the one which makes you sweaty under your armpits.

 

Option TWO: Or you can check out this post for Enneagram test options.

 

What’s your Enneagram type? What did you learn about yourself?

Sunday Link Love #16

Sunday Link Love #16

I started writing with Holly and her Word Gathers again and it is all feelings all the time. And this isn’t nearly as scary as it used to be. It takes practice. So I am practicing.

 

How are you this week?

 

Each week in 2018 I’ll be sending you articles that have sparked my interest because they are all about Self-Care and Life Satisfaction.

 

 

10 Books To Read Instead of Asking a Person of Color to Explain Things to You – Digging in and learning.

 

 

Harvard Study: Clearing Your Mind Affects Your Genes and Can Lower Your Blood Pressure – not bad for 15 minutes.

 

 

A Prince Tribute Bloomed and Gave the Late Singer The Crown He Deserves – must go see!

 

 

 

Why Self-Care Matters To Your Mission – .Morra Aarons-Mele speaks my language. She recently gave a talk entitled The Hermit Entrepreneur and published a book called Hiding In The Bathroom. She is super successful on her own terms and is a huge advocate of building self-care into your business (or job).

 

 

 

Food to Feed a Crowd – Roasted Red Pepper Mac + Cheeze (vegan) – We have recently started weekly neighborhood potlucks. This was a hit!

 

 

 

How to Reverse Engineer Your Self-Care – so simple and well-put!

 

 

 

 Why Hire a Life Coach? – Are you ready? Let’s talk!

 

 

 

Been feeling all the feels lately and Glennon speaks to me (and we’re birthday twins!). Have you read her books?

 

 

I’d love to know what you are reading,  watching and listening to these days. Tell me all about it!

 

I look forward to seeing you soon!

xo,
Tami

PS: If you want to be the first to know about upcoming retreats, workshops and opportunities to work together – get on the list.

Why Hire a Coach?

Why Hire a Coach?

My clients hire me because they have a problem they haven’t been able to solve on their own. Sometimes their issue is at work, sometimes at home and sometimes it shows up both places.  Each client had been working on their issue by themselves, sometimes for years, without reaching their goals. My clients hire me as their coach because they want to solve the problem and what they are doing on their own isn’t working.

 

My coaching clients hire me to help move them beyond where they were on their own. Together we come up with a new plan with fresh ideas she has never thought of before. We examine the issue, what they’ve already done on their own and talk through possibilities for different outcomes. We discover what they want and what changes need to be made in their lives in order to reach their goals.

 

 I hired a coach because

I wanted to get better at something

and I needed help to do that.

 

Some of the reasons my clients have hired me are:

  • She wants to get better at work life balance because all she does it work. (Yes, it can exist!)
  • She wants to get to know herself better so she knows she is on the right path.
  • She wants to figure out how to set herself up now for a future happy, healthy retirement.
  • She wants help preparing for her next career move, promotion, change, or side hustle.
  • She wants prioritize herself and self-care so she stops feeling so overwhelmed.
  • She wants to make peace with difficult people in her life at home, in her family or at work.
  • She wants to help give herself the time to dream about a perfect for her future
  • She wants help with the nuts and bolts of self-care: getting more sleep, creating health habits, meditation.
  • She wants to make peace with food and her body, to stop emotional eating and start living her life.
  • She wants to start dating again after divorce.

 

My role as a coach is to help my clients figure out what they want and how to get there. I don’t give advice, instead I ask tons of questions to see patterns in behaviors, beliefs and assumptions and to uncover what is getting in the way of my clients reaching her goals. She comes up with solutions and strategies and we work together to create accountability.

 

Working with a coach is different than working with a therapist. Click here for the differences.

 

The benefits of working with a coach are:

— fresh perspective on personal challenges
– enhanced decision-making skills
– greater interpersonal effectiveness
– greater confidence
– increased productivity
– greater satisfaction in life
– setting and reaching goals

If you’d like to learn more about my experience working with a coach you can read about it here.

 

If working with a coach is something you are interested in, click here to learn more about working with me – either in the Self-Care SOS or Life Satisfaction Sessions.

 

I have 2 new client spots available in May – be sure to book your Are We A Good Fit session now.

 

Sunday Link Love #15

Sunday Link Love #15

Definitely still on the mend, still grateful to be moving back towards good health and really watching my tendency to want to push beyond what is healthy for me.

 

How are you this week?

 

Each week in 2018 I’ll be sending you articles that have sparked my interest because they are all about Self-Care and Life Satisfaction.

 

 

Why You Should Switch To Natural Deodorant – I’ve been trying different brands for years and was still stinky. I kept at it and found one I love. Plus it smells like lime skittles.

 

The Urban Bath House Trend Is One We Can Get Behind – Have you been yet? I’ve been to Asha in Sacramento at least half a dozen times and it never fails to feel as if I’ve actually had a vacation in as little as 90 minutes.

 

A Better 2018 – Love this post for so many reasons. First, it is talking about making a better year at the end of March instead of January. Jenna’s already been making changes for months and has seen progress. Second, she isn’t trying to tackle everything at once nor to perfection. Last, I love a good product recommendation.

 

 

How To Build a Body Positive Closet – a DIY option or you could sign up for Stasia’s Style School (like I did) when doors open April 13th. At first you think it is about clothes, but really it is about self-acceptance, body geometry and kicking ass and taking names.

 

 

What NOT To Say to Terminal Cancer Patients – So many of us fail to show up for our family and friends when they need us most because we don’t want to say the wrong thing. Or we say the wrong thing and feel like a jerk. Let’s change that.

 

5 Personality Traits You Need to Be Happy, According to Science – aka personal paths to well-being.

 

 

 Why Hire a Life Coach? – Are you ready? Let’s talk!

 

 

We are the girls that have been socialized to be perfect rather than brave. We can rewrite this script together. Let’s talk!

I’d love to know what you are reading,  watching and listening to these days. Tell me all about it!

 

I look forward to seeing you soon!

xo,
Tami

PS: If you want to be the first to know about upcoming retreats, workshops and opportunities to work together – get on the list.

What Would Happen If You Tended To Yourself?

What Would Happen If You Tended To Yourself?

Last year I was lucky enough to have a conversation with Mara Glatzel about Tend(ing to our deepest needs).

 

In this interview we talk about:

  • My daily self-care (low or no cost) practices.
  • How I use my smartphone to help me practice self-care.
  • How I always feel like I am the highest maintenance person in the room and ultimately why that is ok with me.
  • How NOT practicing self-care is selfish.
  • The name of my inner mean girl and how I work with her.
  • What makes life sustainable.
  • What we are teaching our kids.
  • How I stumbled upon the secret of sustainable self-care because of a really immature action.
  • And so much more!

 

I hope you’ll take a listen and think about how you will TEND to yourself from here on out.

 

What would life look and feel like if you tended to yourself properly?