I didn't always have this mission to help women reclaim their power.
About 15 years ago, you'd have found me at my lowest point – burned out, resentful, and wondering where the hell I went.I was doing all the "right things" but drowning. The self-care advice I'd been given (bubble baths! pedicures!) felt completely inadequate for the depth of exhaustion I was experiencing. When I finally hit my breaking point, it became my wake-up call.
As someone with a background in political organizing, I recognized this wasn't just my personal failure. I'd seen countless brilliant women step back from community leadership because they were too depleted.
Decision-making tables became increasingly homogeneous because the women who should be there were too exhausted to show up.I dove deep into research on burnout and women's wellbeing, interviewing experts and testing different approaches to see what actually worked.What emerged was the C.A.R.E. Club – addressing the root causes of women's exhaustion and connecting personal wellbeing to civic engagement.
In Retrospect
I probably should have known that the girl who fought back against her abuser in court would become an advocate for women's power someday…
Currently
You'll find me at my corner of the house in Sacramento, planning workshops or helping C.A.R.E. Club members navigate difficult conversations. When not working, I'm reading political memoirs or playing board games with my teenage daughter.
What lights me up? Watching women reclaim their power and realize they're not alone. Seeing resentment transform into boundary-setting. Witnessing a member take her reclaimed energy and run for local office. Busting the myth that women must choose between self-care and community care.
I believe midlife isn't a crisis – it's an opportunity to reset your compass. When women thrive, communities transform. Change happens where the personal meets the political.
Who I Serve
You know that feeling when you're drowning in responsibilities, resentful as hell, and wondering where YOU went?I work with women in their 40s and 50s who are:
Feeling lost and experiencing an identity crisis
Exhausted from taking care of everyone else
Resentful of endless demands but guilty about prioritizing themselves
Sensing something needs to change but unsure where to start
Wanting to make a difference but too depleted to engage
The women I work with are smart, capable, and values-driven. They've achieved conventional success, but something feels off. They're tired of feeling invisible and disconnected from themselves.
They know they have more to contribute – to their families, communities, and the world – but they're running on empty.
Sound familiar?
My Expertise
My approach combines three areas:
Political Organizing & Civic Engagement I spent over a decade in political organizing before becoming a self-care advocate. This background gives me a unique perspective: personal exhaustion isn't just a private problem – it's political. When women are too depleted to participate in civic life, everyone loses.
Self-Care Research & Implementation After interviewing 100+ experts on burnout and self-care, I've distilled mountains of information into practical strategies that work. My expertise isn't just theoretical – it's lived. I've transformed my own relationship with self-care from occasional indulgence to fundamental leadership practice.
Women's Midlife Transitions Working with hundreds of women in their 40s and 50s, I've developed a deep understanding of this life stage's unique challenges and opportunities. Midlife isn't a crisis to be managed – it's an opportunity to reclaim your power.
"Working with Tami was excellent. We had seen her Good News, Bad News keynote at HSC in the spring and knew she would be a great speaker for our staff. We had some last-minute ideas on our format for the day and she accommodated our request without any hesitation. I would highly recommend Tami to any other organization looking for a down to earth, easy to follow and apply to your life keynote or training on self care."
— Miriam McNamara, North Coast Opportunities