Happy New Year, friend! I am popping in today because I wanted to share some good news with you!
First, I have been doing some serious soul searching over the last few months about who I work with, what they have told me they need and what I can offer in terms of guidance and support.
What I have come up with is this:
I help kickass women (like YOU) find their inner badass through 100% guilt free self-care.
Why 100% guilt-free self-care?
Because it is hard to be a badass when your life is kicking your ass and you feel guilty for taking care of yourself.
I help kickass women get in touch with what they:
Want more of in their life: friends, family, fun, happiness, feeling great
What they want less of: stress, being stuck, resentment
We work together to make a plan they can stick to and revise it until it becomes second nature.
It is all about intentional living/lifestyle design with a side dish of rest + relaxation.
The way I work with women:
In person group sessions at It’s All Yoga in Sacramento
Private coaching sessions via Skype (so don’t be sad if you live outside of Sacramento, we can still make it happen!)
Weekend retreats where we make new friends, eat great food, lounge around over bolsters and take a break from our daily responsibilities.
I’ve included some links below for my upcoming series and retreats. Please be sure to sign up if these interest you. Shoot me a message by hitting reply if you’d like to talk about private coaching sessions.
The other big news is I picked my word of 2016!
Most years I wait until the end of January because December is so exhausting, but I did so well saying no to all the extra stuff I had time for my year end personal summit AND choosing my word of the year.
One foot in front of the other day after day. Small steps every day will get me where I want to go with a feeling of equanimity that I desire.
I choose a word each year because it helps to keep me focused on how I want to feel. It helps ground me in my own desires. It helps me to stick to my intention because sometimes I suffer from shiny object syndrome. It sets the tone for my year. And sometimes it breaks me open in very unexpected ways. (I’m looking at you, NURTURE).
Here are a bunch of my favorite writings about words of the year.
From Vivienne: When I pick a pretty word, a gentle one that warms my heart, that feels calming to say aloud….I have a gentle year (which is usually oh so appreciated).
But when I pick a word that feels deeply uncomfortable to say aloud, let alone write about in a blog post, those are the words that change my life. Those are the words that I need to choose to make transformations happen.
Less that two weeks before we flip the calendar over into the new year.
How do you want 2019 to feel?
We get to decide how we feel.
Revolutionary, I know.
For the last decade plus I have been choosing a word of the year. Those words have helped me feel the way I want to feel and to practice a different way of being in the world.
Words I have chosen over the years:
That last one was so freakin hard (Enneagram One here), that I ended up changing it to Lighthearted (also so freaking hard see Enneagram One).
I also have feelings that guide my life:
In choosing these words and feelings I want in my life, it doesn’t mean I am not also experiencing a range of feelings good and bad. That’s real life.
But by choosing to have a touchstone intention for the year, I feel THAT feeling more often. Perhaps because I am focusing on it. Perhaps because the universe is giving me what I asked for.
All I know is that since starting this practice I have felt so much more intentional in my life. Like paying attention to the details of how I want to feel gives me the prompt to check in with myself frequently about how I am actually feeling. That in turn helps guide me back to what I’d like to feel more often and make life choices to support those feelings.
If you’d like to be intentional with your feelings in 2019 there are many ways to do that:
A number of years ago I stopped making resolutions and started setting yearly intentions instead. I was tired of admitting defeat by February (or October when I made new school year resolutions) and filing my good intentions away as another set of failures.
Now instead of deciding to become a different person each January 1st – one who flosses daily, goes to the gym 7 days a week, writes every single day for an hour, aka setting New Year’s Resolutions – I decide how I want my life to feel in the upcoming year. and let my behavior be decided by how I want to feel.
I choose one word to guide my year. There are a gazillion different ways to choose a word of the year. The process I have been using for the last five years is from my wonderful friend, Rosie Molinary. My words easily find me when I use her 20 questions.
Each year I choose a word of the year. It started while I was teaching elementary school as a way to reflect upon and then change my teaching practice.
Back then I would return to school the Monday after the last day of school to clean my classroom and put the school year to rest. Filling the recycling bin with leftover assignments from the year and taking down bulletin boards kept my hands busy while my mind quietly reflected on the good, the bad and the ugly from the year.
Usually by the time my classroom was clean and put away for the summer, I would have decided where I wanted to focus my attention in the following year.
At the beginning of each year I would hold my word as a touchstone. Each day I would refer back to it and when situations came up where my word was relevant, I would act accordingly.
The year where I was crippled by anxiety because I was unsure where I would be the following year. I decided to say yes in order to flow with the uncertainty. That looked a lot like faith and trust and letting go.
As I stepped away from the classroom to focus on raising my daughter and teaching yoga I continued choosing words to guide my years. I started using Rosie’s process to guide me to my words: connection and nurture being the most recent.
Beginning in 2013 I started teaching this word choosing process as part of The Healthy Happy Sane Teacher program and in my Restoration Not Resolutions New Year’s Day workshop.
If you’ve come to Restoration Not Resolutions, you’ve heard me talk about how part of my process in choosing my own word of the year involves thinking through the “shadow” aspect of my potential words. When I talk about the shadow I’m talking about the not so shiny, nice parts of a chosen word.
Take my word last year, nurture. Definition: care for and encourage the development of. Seems really positive, right? Who wouldn’t want encouragement and growth? Well, I’m here to let you know, that these words can really come to life and give you lots of practice with them in unexpected ways.
The year of nurture my mom had a paralyzing stroke. I love my mom, but our relationship is complicated and she lives 1200 miles away. Nurture took on an unexpected twist through this because it lead me to deeper self-care for myself, learning to accept help from friends and reaching out and leaning on family.
Nurture became a powerful force in my life last year. And I have to say when I look back at all the words I’ve chosen over the years, each and every one has played an important part of shaping who ultimately I have become.
In other words, I don’t choose my words lightly!
I jokingly refer to “auditioning words” in December and January these days. What I mean by that is throughout the year words come to me. I add them to a list of potential words for the next year and sort of meditate on them and how they could play out if I choose to take them on the following year.
Words that made the list for potential 2015 words include:
Play – because let’s be honest I don’t need any help with work.
Adventure – because our girl is growing up and I’ve got travel fever and I was thinking of this as being adventurous and trying new (scary) things.
Compassion – because it is how we really connect to each other and how we can forgive ourselves.
Value – because I underestimate mine.
Seen/visible – because I’ve been hiding parts of myself. From you, from me, from the world… and it’s time to stop.
Definition: full of or shedding light; bright or shining, especially in the dark.
Going through the whole 20 question process, I feel like this word chose me. The part that sealed the deal for me is especially in the dark. The ability to keep shining even when things are grim, sad and dark is calling to me this year with the uncertainty of my mom’s health and the recent deaths of many of my loved ones’ loved ones.
I can’t wait to see how luminous comes to life in 2015.
I would love to hear from you about your word of the year, about MY chosen word of the year or about anything else you’d like to connect with me about.
I teach 100% guilt-free self-care to busy women who want to drop the story that self-care is selfish and start feeling powerful and strong as the leader in their own life. All without them feeling overwhelmed or breaking the bank.